My blog on saying Goodbye to Grad school has been long overdue. But, it’s only because I promised myself I would not finish writing and publishing it until I can finally pinpoint the words to say, articulate them clearly, and respond justly to the ups and downs of Grad school. Grad school became a pivotal point in my life and career, I wanted to make sure I gave the experience enough time to simmer and manifest within myself.
Grad school demanded many sacrifices. Some good, some … not so good. Some sacrifices I wasn’t willing to give up, some I gave freely. I’m not quite in a position to have enough retrospective wisdom (yet), but what I do know is the sacrifices I made will be worth it in the end (it better be). Grad school, although seemingly overwhelming in the midst of it, was merely a speckle in time. But, during that time life took a ride on so many different roller coasters.
For one, I do not have the same group of friends now that I had prior to Grad school. Heck, I may have even made a few enemies in the past 3 years. And even though that seems like a pretty rough assessment of where I am right now, at least it’s an honest one. This is one of the categories I wasn’t really willing to give up. But, the friends that have remained (including some new friends I made along the way) have been ever so loving, supportive, gracious, giving, and understanding.
Two, my life looks completely different right now than it did when I first started Grad school. This was one of those sacrifices I freely gave. I live in a different home with no roommates, I work at a different company, I frequent different places, and most of all I feel so much happier and healthier than I have felt since my undergrad. Although I’ve only been at my current workplace for the past year the coworkers I have right now have been encouraging and supportive with my last year of Grad school. I could not have asked for better people to be surrounded by during those challenging times. I am forever indebted to them, and grateful.
Three, my family has been nothing but patient, loving, and accepting of me during the past three years. I have had to miss family functions, birthdays, celebrations, I think there was even an Easter I missed somewhere in there. None of that mattered to them. What mattered to them were my education and ability to care for myself while going to school full-time as well as working full-time. They brought me meals in times of stress. They took me in if I didn’t want to drive back to Pasadena that night. They checked in on me to make sure everything was okay if they hadn’t heard from me in a while.
So, I tip my hat off to the people in my life that have uplifted me, encouraged me, supported me, and loved me. I would not have survived without you. Thank you.
I leave you tonight with what I had (and didn’t know I needed) as a reminder, for the last 2 months of my Graduate career, a post-it note with the words “You will be fine” on it, written by a very dear friend of mine.
We will be just fine.